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13 posts labelled Boundaries
· 6 min read
My friend Dani told me I let people get under my skin and end up being used. I did not see it then, but she is right. This is how taking people literally as an autistic person leaves me open to being used, why it hurts so much when people leave, and what I am working on.
· 8 min read
What it feels like to pour your all into someone who drains you: everything having to be about them, losing your sense of self, a nervous system on fire from hot and cold behaviour, being called ugly, fat, and useless, and why leaving feels like withdrawal.
· 13 min read
My own experience of putting others first, ignoring red flags, and romanticising situations that meant less than I hoped. Having my heart broken is the first time I have put myself first, and I am working on my health, my peace, and a family with my partner.
· 5 min read
Obsessed with external validation, rewatching videos of themselves, belittling others, never wrong, and cutting people off like it is nothing. What it does to your nervous system, and why they ruin the days that matter most.
· 4 min read
I take actions at face value and miss the feeling underneath. I have done this most of my life, and I hate it. Naming the bias helps. Repair still matters.
· 5 min read
I feel deeply, get hurt, and sometimes hurt others without meaning to. Emptiness, pushing people away, trauma bonds, and the open question of BPD versus autism — and learning to let go.
· 2 min read
I love these pictures of us. You brought me back from the depth of despair. We get each other, nothing is a contest, and it is a team effort. Thank you for being my world.
· 7 min read
Professionals wrote me off as a child. Bullied, quiet, fixated on computers — and why I resonate so hard with Elon Musk. Miss Barclay, if you are out there: thank you.
· 2 min read
A Reddit post about partners who pick fights before deadlines and big days named the sabotage. I am with someone who makes me feel safe and loved now, and the alarm finally quieted.
· 5 min read
A birthday that felt safe for once. Care instead of manipulation, love instead of isolation, and why the right person is not the one who needs you broken.
· 6 min read
Enemies become allies, characters actually change, and the real plot is the one I reused after bullying, failure, and heartbreak: take the hit, power up, come back sharper.
· 6 min read
Nothing was ever enough. Drama, victimhood, and emotional drain that left self-harm, night terrors, a breakdown, caught fleas mistaken for BPD, and trust that still will not come easy.
· 5 min read
Autism can make me more prone to outbursts that do not match who I am the rest of the time. A flooded state is not a character reveal. Do not weaponise it.