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· 7 min read
For years I put everything into people and got hurt. Then I put myself first. This is what working on myself did for my confidence, and why looking after yourself and loving yourself first matters so much.
· 11 min read
Reused, memorable passwords are how most people get compromised, and the fix is not trying harder. A password manager handles the long tail, passkeys remove the shared secret altogether, and together they are easier than what they replace.
· 22 min read
Water, rail, the grid and broadband are natural monopolies, and the real question is how to own or regulate the network. Gas and electric bills are mostly set by global wholesale prices and the wires, not supplier profit. A sourced look at costs, energy price reform, the cost of living, tax, post-COVID debt at £3 trillion, and how to make state ownership actually work.
· 12 min read
13.969 billion cans and €12.2 billion of turnover in 2025, but the real product is attention. From the Stratos space jump to Formula 1, football, Cliff Diving and a media house, here is how Red Bull makes its money and why the can is only half the story.
· 2 min read
Letting another person's mood set mine is hard for anyone. As an autistic person, my emotions just happen, my logical brain switches off when I am overwhelmed, and I feel things harder than most. That is why I need a buffer, and why I am not broken.
· 19 min read
A checklist I am writing mostly for me. How to be there for my partner through pregnancy, birth and the first weeks, how to prepare for fatherhood (leave, baby skills, safe sleep, crying, my own mental health), and how to be a team once the baby is home.
· 7 min read
People pleasing, over preparing, being the intense one, over apologising, rejection sensitivity, hyperfocus, executive function struggles, and feeling empty inside. What I thought was my personality turned out to line up with ADHD.
· 7 min read
Fixing things is how I make sense of the world and where a lot of my purpose comes from. The same instinct fires for problems that belong to other people, and learning to tell the difference has made me better at the ones that are mine.
· 13 min read
My own experience of putting others first, ignoring red flags, and romanticising situations that meant less than I hoped. Having my heart broken is the first time I have put myself first, and I am working on my health, my peace, and a family with my partner.
· 10 min read
If you find out your child is bullying, address it. Explain the primary and secondary consequences for the child on the receiving end, how trauma develops, and why mental health matters on both sides.
· 6 min read
Chronic bullying through childhood and my teens left me with trauma, low self esteem, and social anxiety. I wanted friends but could not trust anyone, and RuneScape was my escape. It has only been this year that I have done things on my own, and a lot of it lines up with being autistic.
· 15 min read
Show me the incentive and I will show you the outcome. Where a clean incentive works, where socialism breaks it, why rail, water and the energy networks are a case for public ownership, and why charities and suicidal empathy reward feeling good over getting results.
· 21 min read
The UK government has told households to hold three days of water, food and essentials. Is it just storms and power cuts, or is there more to it? What to keep in the house if the power goes off, how to cook without electricity, and what to do in a worse-case scenario.
· 5 min read
Obsessed with external validation, rewatching videos of themselves, belittling others, never wrong, and cutting people off like it is nothing. What it does to your nervous system, and why they ruin the days that matter most.
· 15 min read
The .pro file points Sophos Connect at the VPN portal. Intune installs the MSI and copies that file into the Windows import folder. Jamf installs the Mac pkg and opens the same file for the logged-in user. SFOS 23 is still an external EAP.
· 15 min read
Remote work pushed the working day into SaaS. The data leaves by paste, upload, and a password typed into the wrong page. That is the job of an enterprise browser, including Sophos Workspace Protection and Island.
· 8 min read
Old School RuneScape goes back to shipped features, admits mistakes, and fixes friction on feedback. The rest of the software industry, and especially cyber security, should do the same, because in security a usability defect is a security defect.
· 7 min read
I have felt like an imposter my entire life, not in my work but in my own body. Most of the time I feel disconnected from myself, like an observer watching someone else live my life, and I do not feel real.
· 27 min read
What to consider before you build a homelab, what to run on it, and how it ties into Home Assistant, Jellyfin, a Tesla, and an eventual off-grid setup. Real power costs, current tooling, and a phased plan.
· 8 min read
Default-deny outbound for servers, give workstations only the network paths they need, isolate management planes, and apply the same least-privilege instinct to identity, DNS, backups, and logging.
· 4 min read
I take actions at face value and miss the feeling underneath. I have done this most of my life, and I hate it. Naming the bias helps. Repair still matters.
· 7 min read
DC-as-DNS blinds the firewall, fakes compromise alerts, and turns a directory outage into “the internet is down”. Put the firewall in front: external names to Cloudflare or Google, internal AD zones forwarded to the DCs.
· 6 min read
I struggle to learn without the why. Curiosity is a constant hunger for more information, and once purpose shows up, the how finally sticks.
· 5 min read
I feel deeply, get hurt, and sometimes hurt others without meaning to. Emptiness, pushing people away, trauma bonds, and the open question of BPD versus autism — and learning to let go.
· 25 min read
Prevention will not stop every attack. Cyber resilience is whether you keep operating, recover safely and learn. What it should look like in practice, twelve measures grounded in 2026 data and NCSC, NIST and CISA guidance, and a 30, 90 and 365 day plan.
· 8 min read
Spotify's co-founder bet on prevention, broken incentives, and longitudinal data. Neko's early numbers look like a thesis shipping, not a keynote — and the NHS version of waiting too long is one I already lived.
· 4 min read
Addiction, ruined relationships, lowered confidence in men, trauma, and what the NoFap community got right. Stop producing it. Ban it everywhere.
· 7 min read
The NHS is brilliant at trauma. For chronic illness and men's mental health it is often a holding pattern. Why I stopped waiting for a system to get curious about me.
· 2 min read
I love these pictures of us. You brought me back from the depth of despair. We get each other, nothing is a contest, and it is a team effort. Thank you for being my world.
· 1 min read
A friend I met through my mum. A genius in dead-end jobs who got me into World of Warcraft, web development, PHP, and Django. He passed away in his house. I still think about him.
· 7 min read
Professionals wrote me off as a child. Bullied, quiet, fixated on computers — and why I resonate so hard with Elon Musk. Miss Barclay, if you are out there: thank you.
· 6 min read
Day job is risk and architecture. The dancefloor is shared pulse, North West lineage, and a room where AuDHD social bandwidth finally makes sense. The kick is the brief.
· 2 min read
A Reddit post about partners who pick fights before deadlines and big days named the sabotage. I am with someone who makes me feel safe and loved now, and the alarm finally quieted.
· 6 min read
Subjective reality is the filter. Objective reality is what is left when the filter lies. Cortisol, thyroid, sex steroids, and metabolic chemistry shape that filter — and a lot of human conflict is two filters colliding.
· 7 min read
Alcohol has real trial evidence. Cannabis, nicotine, opioids, and stimulants have signals and studies underway. What the reward biology explains, what it does not, and why this is not an approved addiction cure.
· 5 min read
A birthday that felt safe for once. Care instead of manipulation, love instead of isolation, and why the right person is not the one who needs you broken.
· 8 min read
Androgen receptor density, fibre type, daily use, and muscle architecture explain stubborn calves and fast traps. Same hormones and training land on an uneven map.
· 4 min read
Simulation theory stops being a joke when you notice we are already nesting worlds with AI. The map feels solid from the inside. That is how a good game works.
· 6 min read
Intimate predators and nation-state algorithms use the same levers: intermittent reward, threat cycling, shame, and isolation. The goal is dysregulation, not debate.
· 5 min read
Why autistic attention tunnels make immersion beautiful and release hard, and why rejection, sensory load, and rumination make hurt land louder and stick longer.
· 6 min read
Enemies become allies, characters actually change, and the real plot is the one I reused after bullying, failure, and heartbreak: take the hit, power up, come back sharper.
· 6 min read
A grounded 2036 sketch: AI as plumbing, harder identity, uneven autonomy, energy constraints, healthspan, and the boring skills that still decide who wins.
· 6 min read
Nothing was ever enough. Drama, victimhood, and emotional drain that left self-harm, night terrors, a breakdown, caught fleas mistaken for BPD, and trust that still will not come easy.
· 5 min read
Autism can make me more prone to outbursts that do not match who I am the rest of the time. A flooded state is not a character reveal. Do not weaponise it.
· 19 min read
The master plans, Robotaxi, Optimus, European regulation, and a possible SpaceX merger. Why the evidence that Tesla can still get there is already in the documents, not just the keynotes.
· 8 min read
Depressed from 11 into my thirties. Assessed, listened to, prescribed for, and never once given a blood test. When someone finally took one, my testosterone was on the floor.
· 12 min read
Living off the land, dual-use RMM tools, trusted tunnels, and valid credentials put attackers in a grey zone where nothing looks malicious. Prevention narrows the door. Managed detection and response is what resolves the ambiguity at 2am.
· 7 min read
A compelling case for containerisation: faster experiments, image hubs, sane updates, honest trade-offs, real scale, and why containers are perfect for home labs.
· 6 min read
From Arup's deepfake boardroom to Ferrari's near miss, DPRK hiring deepfakes, and voice-clone family scams: what AI-enabled attacks look like in the real world, and what actually stops them.
· 8 min read
Why peptides are having a moment, what major categories actually do, and how patentability and compounding rules shape access in 2026.
· 9 min read
Attackers are logging in as your users through AiTM phishing, social engineering, RDS, portals, and mailboxes. Prevention still matters. Identity threat detection and response is what catches what gets through.
· 4 min read
Why a computer startup script that uses Win32_UserProfile often beats the built-in GPO that deletes profiles older than X days on restart.
· 3 min read
Azure HA for Sophos is not the same as plugging two appliances into the same LAN. Use Azure Load Balancer with health probes, then align policy across nodes with Sophos Central—because you are orchestrating two independent firewalls, not one clustered brain.
· 2 min read
Stand up Sophos Firewall (SFOS) as a VM on Proxmox for proof-of-concept or lab: images, NICs, resources, and a few pitfalls before you mirror the same design in production hardware.
· 5 min read
Split Main, Guest, and IoT networks on a UDM Pro, keep IoT off your trusted LAN, and allow Chromecast and AirPlay from phones and laptops without flattening security.
· 2 min read
Use Microsoft’s Win32 Content Prep Tool to wrap your installer folder into an .intunewin, then publish a Win32 app with silent install and detection.
· 1 min read
Structuring Entra ID policies so security improves without endless exclusions.
· 1 min read
A practical order of operations before you flip enforcement policies.
· 1 min read
Why quarterly test restores beat a perfect backup policy on paper.
· 1 min read
Constrained language, logging, and approval flows for high-privilege sessions.
· 1 min read
Split-horizon, logging, and filtering without turning your helpdesk into a ticket factory.